The Journey from "I should" to "I choose"

Why do we look forward to retirement and when we get there, we are often unhappy, unfulfilled or underwhelmed?

One reason may be for the first time we are being asked to “choose” and not being told what we “should” do. 

I’m inviting you to entertain the likelihood that we have been sleepwalking…robotically moving through our lives ignoring what WE choose for our best possible self. We’ve all heard that we “should” all over ourselves every day…and it’s true.

From the time we are toddlers to retirement we are barraged with parents, teachers, family, friends and bosses telling us what we “should” do. We should be walking by this age.

We should be potty trained by this age.

We should go to school and be proficient in xyz by this age.

We should get A’s and B’s and we should go to college.

We should graduate from college and get a great “job”.

We should strive for advancement in that job.

We should be a democrat or republican.

We should get married and have children.

Those children should be in soccer, football, music… fill in the blank.

This “blank” is well meaning and most often driven by our parents who didn’t have that “opportunity” and wanted to ensure that their children did.

Should is nothing more than a detour from your authentic self and can act as an alarm. All of these “should’s” are well meaning and truth be told we have contributed to perpetuating the “should’s” with our loved ones.

It’s not our fault we’ve been trained to follow “should” and ignore “choose” or what I define as our authentic desires. Should is the assembly line of life that gives us order and boundaries and that is not necessarily a bad thing; however, it is important to include your sense of self in every decision.

Read more on this topic from my article published in Deserve Magazines October 2020 issue starting on page 20 

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